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Flowing Emotions
Emotions can grip us can’t they? And they’re so convincing.
Convincing?
Well, think about how ruled we are by emotions. For many of us emotions charge us through our day like a horse pulls a carriage.
Something happens that makes us feel sad and we try to avoid sadness with food, TV or working out.
Something happens that makes us feel happy and we don’t want it to end or can’t wait for it to happen again.
Oh…and hopefully someone won’t bring up that one particular issue…’cause if so, we may lose our temper and get crazy up in here!
Life flows this way until, without knowing, you’re chasing the things that FEEL good and desperately avoiding things that FEEL bad.
At first glance your like, “da…that sounds like a good plan for me!” But this causes one heck of a problem including major stress on the body. What happened to going with the flow?
Here’s the Point
Always keep in mind that you’re NOT anger. You’re NOT sadness, happiness or any other emotion. Those are words we use to describe feelings we feel and use to make sense of this experience called life.
You’re going to feel sadness. You’re going to feel anger. You’re going to feel happiness and you’re going to feel all of the other emotions out there. So instead of becoming the emotions (“I am angry”), feel them (“I feel angry”)! Once you feel them you can let them flow much easier.
One More Point!
Because you weren’t taught to flow emotions, you have files of trapped emotions stuck in your energy body. This adds a challenge, because when something happens in the present it can trigger emotional memories from your past. Then, rather than experiencing this present moment situation fully (in order to feel, process and move on), you actually start reliving your past instead.
Quick example…if as a kid there was an older gentleman constantly yelling at you, you may feel agitated around older gentlemen now. Or you may have a preconceived notion that all elderly people are mean. This is a wrong assumption and may seem obvious…but trust me…we all have our emotional past, and it is definitely painting your present life.
What do we do about it?
A) Get rid of the emotional stress we currently carry
1. Daily Meditation Practice-click the link for details about Heart Based Meditation and establishing a daily retreat. If you’re looking for an emotional-clearing meditation to start right away try this emotional clearing meditation.
-Exercising, journaling and other techniques exist to keep stress levels lower. But nothing is as efficient as the two mentioned above.
B) Prevent new stress from taking hold
When talking about emotions stop saying, “I am angry!” or “I am tired of being sad.” That type of language claims the emotion and makes it yours! Here are three terms to use when you’re asked, “How are you doing?”
“I’m in the process of allowing (insert emotion) to flow through me.”
“Right now I’m processing (insert emotion) by feeling it.”
“I’m choosing to move through (insert emotion) by realizing I’m feeling that way in this moment.”
This is a start. For deeper work including learning Emotional Octaves to flow emotions, contact me for a Transformational Healing session. You’ll be flowing emotions before you know it!
Children’s Corner
We must teach our children to flow emotions and that it’s okay to express emotions in a safe and “appropriate for the emotion” way. This emotional processing choice sheet is great. Easy to make on the computer and you can plug in the strategies that work best for your child.
Once you make the chart hang it on the fridge. Teach them to use it by modeling. When you notice your child getting emotional, empower them to choose which way they want to express it.
SPECIAL NOTE: I do work with children and parents, so if you need help give me a call. We’ll talk about what you need and determine a plan for improvement!
