Yes, that’s actually a quote from a recent client when asked about the communication between her and her husband. At least I knew where to start!

Communication continues to be at the core of many conversations during Transformational Healing sessions. Relationships will flow much longer and smoother with good quality communication and more importantly (at least this week) can be such a turn on!

We’ve all been there…the special connection we feel when we connect with someone through a stimulating conversation. The words seem to intertwine the energy of both involved. As the conversation deepens, different energy centers in the body are stimulated similar to listening to a touching song that moves our emotions and uplifts our soul.

But let’s take it deeper.

Many of us have things that need to be said. Things we’ve been holding onto because we don’t want to rock the boat or “shake things up.” If this is you then it’s time to look at communicating these unsaid thoughts.

Why? Not because honesty is the best policy. Because these “kept within” emotions and thoughts serve as a breeding ground for passive aggressive behaviors, denial, regret and resentment and they are draining your relationship more than you know.

This pent-up communication forms energetic barriers between you and your loved one. The more you hold in the more barricaded you become, and this stifles the flow of love and romance between the two of you. Not to mention this sets you up for a “wake-up” call argument in the future.

Want to stimulate your romantic life?

In the last few years of my life, I’ve opened up and communicated more honestly. It has been such a release for both people involved and has improved many relationships both romantic and familial.

Yes, this means a difficult situation once in a while, but the freedom that is felt adds positive energy to the body immediately. It’s so freeing and so much better than the frustration that comes with holding on and carrying the emotional issues within.

When these conversations happen with a romantic partner…whoaaa baby! The freed-up energy breaks down the barricades that existed, and watch out, because the deeper connection is immediately felt and the sexual attraction can reach new and amazing levels.

Communication: Five Steps to Success

1. Journal: Find time to do a little journaling. Title your journal page with the issue that needs to be communicated, and write what needs to be said. Get it all out. Including looking at things from the other person’s point of view in order to see your fault in the issue.

2. Make a Plan to Express: Write down how you will initiate the conversation. What will be the first things mentioned?

3.Lead with Love: Start the difficult conversation by framing what needs to be said in a loving way. This is not an attack. Make sure your tone matches this heartfelt need to communicate. Be ready to hear and ACCEPT the other person’s point of view.

Yes, this conversation may shake things up, but what’s your alternative? This could be the conversation that blasts your relationship to an amazing new level.

4. Meditate and Prepare: Make sure your nervous system is relaxed. Meditate beforehand, relax the body and remember the Lead with Love principles above. In the days leading up to your conversation, try the Balanced Bond meditation at http://davidlesinski.com/meditation/

5. Involve the Angels: Ask for three “Relationship Angels” to find the perfect time in the near future for this conversation to happen. Ask them to prepare you and the other person involved. Pray to them for guidance, and ask them to allow the conversation to flow easily and effortlessly and with the most positive outcome for the lives of all involved.